{"id":5209,"date":"2015-08-30T15:01:36","date_gmt":"2015-08-30T22:01:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/?p=5209"},"modified":"2017-03-24T04:33:47","modified_gmt":"2017-03-24T04:33:47","slug":"settlement-conference","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/","title":{"rendered":"Divorce Court is Expensive-Try a Settlement Conference"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"video\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"100%\" height=\"100%\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/O78N6KfF2p0\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"There_are_three_primary_reasons_that_divorce_cases_settle\"><\/span>There are three primary reasons that divorce cases settle:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_65 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-662ae91628623\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-662ae91628623\"  aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#There_are_three_primary_reasons_that_divorce_cases_settle\" title=\"There are three primary reasons that divorce cases settle:\">There are three primary reasons that divorce cases settle:<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#Here_are_10_things_to_help_you_in_a_divorce_settlement_conference\" title=\"Here are 10 things to help you in a divorce settlement conference:\">Here are 10 things to help you in a divorce settlement conference:<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#1_Know_the_real_issues\" title=\"1. Know the real issues.\">1. Know the real issues.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#2_Listen_to_your_lawyer_about_the_law\" title=\"2. Listen to your lawyer about the law.\">2. Listen to your lawyer about the law.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#3_Know_what_it_will_cost\" title=\"3. Know what it will cost.\">3. Know what it will cost.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#4_Almost_anything_is_possible\" title=\"4. Almost anything is possible.\">4. Almost anything is possible.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#5_Hold_your_cards_until_the_last_minute\" title=\"5. Hold your cards until the last minute.\">5. Hold your cards until the last minute.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#6_Hold_firm_to_your_resolve\" title=\"6. Hold firm to your resolve.\">6. Hold firm to your resolve.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#7_Give_a_little_to_get_a_little\" title=\"7. Give a little to get a little.\">7. Give a little to get a little.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/wefight4you.com\/settlement-conference\/#8_Give_it_time\" title=\"8. Give it time.\">8. Give it time.<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<h4>1. Exhaustion \u2013<\/h4>\n<p>Divorces are mentally, physically and emotionally taxings. People often end up throwing up their hands and surrendering out frustration and fatigue.<\/p>\n<h4>2.  Expense \u2013<\/h4>\n<p>Divorces often end when the parties run out of money. The more two individuals fight in court, the more it will cost. A single court appearance can run into several thousand dollars not to mention the time off from work to attend the hearing. If you cannot resolve your divorce disputes by a settlement, you will spend up to 10 times more than someone who settles.<\/p>\n<h4>3.    Control \u2013<\/h4>\n<p>If they can afford it, some couples will go all the way to the brink of trial before finally agreeing to settle. This is usually because their attorney finally convinced them that going to trial means giving up control. A judge, not the parties, will decide custody, support and property issues. The court has guidelines established by law that they adhere to whereas if you reach a reasonable settlement, you and spouse have much more flexibility.<\/p>\n<p>Spouses may negotiate their settlements agreements through direct communication, indirectly through their attorneys, in mediation through the collaborative divorce process or during a court sponsored settlement conference.<\/p>\n<p>Most California courts require settlement conferences before the parties to a divorce, legal separation or dissolution of a domestic partnership may schedule their case for trial.<\/p>\n<p>Clearly divorcing parties should take advantage of settlement conferences as they provide the opportunity to save money, decrease stress, and spend less time entangled in divorce proceedings.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Here_are_10_things_to_help_you_in_a_divorce_settlement_conference\"><\/span>Here are 10 things to help you in a divorce settlement conference:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Know_the_real_issues\"><\/span><strong>1.<\/strong> <strong>Know the real issues.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Primarily divorce issues fall into one of four categories in California divorces, legal separations and the dissolutions of domestic partnerships. They are child custody, child support, spousal support and property division. Sit down and consider these four categories before your settlement conference. It is a good idea to narrow things down to the really important issues, the lessor issues will tend to resolve themselves and wasting time on them at your settlement conference will only prolong it.  You should know your bottom line on the important issues and consider how your spouse may respond to your demands. Make sure that you have communicated your important issues to your attorney and that your lawyer knows your bottom line.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Listen_to_your_lawyer_about_the_law\"><\/span><strong>2.<\/strong> Listen to your lawyer about the law<strong>.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>After having communicated the important issues of your divorce, legal separation or same sex marriage dissolution, you should listen to what your family law attorney advises about your case. A good divorce lawyer will tell their clients how the law applies in their case. You may find your important issues are not in conformity with the law or that you are unlikely to prevail on a particular issue if the matter was to go before a judge.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Know_what_it_will_cost\"><\/span><strong>3.<\/strong> <strong>Know what it will cost.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It is a good idea to ask you divorce, legal separation or same sex marriage dissolution for an estimate of how much it will cost to take your family law case to trial. Knowing how much more that you will need to pay before attending a settlement conference will help you to determine how flexible you may need to be. If you cannot afford a trial or do not wish to spend your money in such a way, you may soften your position on somethings at the settlement conference.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Almost_anything_is_possible\"><\/span><strong>4.<\/strong> <strong>Almost anything is possible<\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>If you are able to reach a settlement at a settlement conference, you will not only save money but you may be able to work out an agreement that would be unlikely in court. A judge is limited by law but the parties can agree to almost any terms. This means that an agreement can be made where on paper it may seem imbalanced but the parties themselves want it to be so.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Hold_your_cards_until_the_last_minute\"><\/span><strong>5.<\/strong> Hold your cards until the last minute.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>Never go into a settlement conference prepared to lay out your bottom line demands from the start.  It is best to go in with higher demands knowing that you will give in to many of them.  If you go in with your bottom line demands then you will be left with no room for concession.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Hold_firm_to_your_resolve\"><\/span><strong>6.<\/strong> Hold firm to your resolve<strong>.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>When you say &#8220;hold firm to your resolve&#8221; or &#8220;remain determined&#8221; to a party to a divorce, legal separation or same sex marriage dissolution, that person will usually take that to mean that they shouldn&#8217;t give in to their demands.  But, in this context it means that you should remain determined to settle your matter at the settlement conference.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Give_a_little_to_get_a_little\"><\/span><strong>7.<\/strong> Give a little to get a little<strong>.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>You must understand one basic premise of every divorce, legal separation or same sex marriage dissolution, which is that the two of you had things together that collectively added up to more than what either of you will receive from the divorce. What each party will receive at best is something less than one half of the community assets. Similarly, child custody may be divided up. You will not have the same property after the divorce as you did during the marriage and you will not see your kids as often as did during the marriage. Knowing this going in to your settlement conference may help you to prepare mentally to let some things go to your spouse so that you may in turn receive some concessions from them.<\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"8_Give_it_time\"><\/span><strong>8. Give it time.<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>It is not uncommon for settlement conferences to take several hours or even several days to reach an agreement.  Often settlement conferences end in a stalemate but, the attorneys will likely keep the discussion going. As long as the parties continue to communicate and try to stay reasonable, there is hope for a settlement.<\/p>\n<p>If you are in a divorce or if you are considering a divorce, the Law Offices of Marc Grossman will give you clear, concise legal opinions for free. Simply complete one of the contact forms you will find on our website or call 855-LOMG-911 to speak to a family law specialist now.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are three primary reasons that divorce cases settle: 1. Exhaustion \u2013 Divorces are mentally, physically and emotionally taxings. People often end up throwing up their hands and surrendering out frustration and fatigue. 2. Expense \u2013 Divorces often end when the parties run out of money. 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